1. Hello, listening friends.
2. Thank you for tuning in to this broadcast.
3. We are in the midst of a series of messages on the Ten Commandments;
4. and I want to begin by telling you that our generation has more experts on the subject of marriage than all previous generations put together.
5. Our generation has more information on communication in marriage than the previous generations all put together;
6. and, yet, the rate of discontentment in marriage is unprecedented.
7. Why is it that we have so much knowledge and information and, yet, still have unprecedented numbers of unhappy marriages?
8. I am convinced that the core reason for unhappy marriages is selfishness;
9. and the core reason for selfishness is lack of love for the Lord Jesus Christ;
10. and the lack of love for the Lord Jesus Christ is manifesting itself in lack of love for a spouse;
11. and this plague of selfishness is even invading the lives of believers in Jesus Christ.
12. We see true love being exchanged for selfishness.
13. We see what should have been a lasting relationship exchanged for selfish interest.
14. We see self-giving exchanged for instant gratification.
15. We see sacrificing our comfort for the glory of God be exchanged for what is convenient.
16. When we see all of that, one wonders if we are not living in the last days.
17. If you are just joining us, we are in the middle of a series of messages on the Ten Commandments;
18. and, today, we look at the Seventh Commandment.
19. “You shall not commit adultery.”
20. Turn with me, please, to Matthew, Chapter 5, beginning at verse 27.
21. Here’s what Jesus said about the Seventh Commandment in Matthew, Chapter 5.
22. Let’s read it together.
23. Do you know what Jesus is doing here?
24. He is doing the same thing as we saw Him doing with the Sixth Commandment on murder.
25. He is dealing with the root of sin, not just the fruit.
26. Just as He said that anger is the root and murder is the fruit,
27. He is saying that continuous lust is the root and the fruit is adultery.
28. He warns us about the root of adultery.
29. He explains that adultery doesn’t just happen.
30. He is saying that adultery gets into our minds through our eyes and, then, becomes reality.
31. As always, Jesus is concerned about us opening the door to sin,
32. so He is saying, “Shut the door...”
33. and, in reality, we can never shut the door by our own strength.
34. Only through the power of the Holy Spirit can we do it.
35. In Matthew, Chapter 5, Jesus is speaking—figuratively speaking—about gouging your eye.
36. This is the way the Hebrew language is expressed;
37. so, what is He actually saying?
38. He is saying, “Do whatever it takes to protect the sanctity of your marriage.”
39. He is saying to give up whatever is necessary in order to protect yourself against evil.
40. My listening friends, let me tell you something of uttermost importance.
41. Adultery doesn’t just happen overnight.
42. Adultery is like a gas leak.
43. It begins in a very slow and almost imperceptible manner;
44. but, then, as soon as the spark hits, the house is burnt down.
45. Watch out for the gas leaks.
46. One of the ways to avoid this gas leak is to never spend time alone with somebody of the opposite sex, other than your spouse.
47. Anyone who confides in a person of the opposite sex—other than their spouse—sooner or later, the spark is going to catch fire.
48. Now, this is a very serious issue.
49. The suffering and the pain that results from adultery,
50. the deep-seated guilt that results from adultery,
51. and the devastation that results from adultery, is not to be taken lightly;
52. and that is why I want to share with you three lessons from the life of David.
53. You know, King David could not deal with the root of sin;
54. and, because he did not deal with the root, he ended up with the fruit.
55. Had he heeded the words that later were to be spoken by the words of the Lord Jesus Christ in Matthew 5,
56. he wouldn’t have wound up in the situation that he found himself in;
57. and, 3,000 years later, we are all facing the same problem.
58. The words of Jesus are the words to us today.
59. Listen carefully, my listening friend.
60. If David, who conquered all of his enemies,
61. if David, who wrote these beautiful Psalms and hymns,
62. if David would fall and stumble, then every one of us must take heed;
63. so, what are these lessons that we can learn from David’s life?
64. Number one,
65. it is not masculine to commit adultery.
66. In fact, it’s the absolute opposite.
67. It is cowardly.
68. In 2 Samuel 11:1,
69. we see David’s adultery was a result of a failure in his godly manliness.
70. The Bible said that he remained at home, instead of being at work.
71. While he should have been leading the battle, he decided to take it easy at home.
72. David would not have committed adultery had he been where he should have been;
73. but, instead, in his idleness, he gave in to temptation.
74. When you live for yourself,
75. when your focus is yourself,
76. when your money and your effort and your energy are all expended on yourself,
77. I want to tell you—watch out.
79. David allowed a glance to become a gaze.
80. There is a whole world of difference between a glance and a gaze;
81. so being careful of what you read,
82. being careful of what you continuously watch,
83. being careful of what you look at on your computer,
84. will help you avoid a disaster,
85. for the very root of the tree of adultery is gazing.
86. If you need help in this area,
87. find a trusted friend or advisor to help keep you on track.
88. Adultery is not manly. It is cowardly.
89. Secondly, allowing the glance to become a gaze can be dangerous and hazardous to your spirit;
90. and, thirdly, you must keep short accounts with your spouse.
91. If you allow the sun to go down on your anger day in and day out,
92. week after week,
93. if you allow anger to go underground inside of you and fester,
94. sooner or later, the devil is going to show up;
95. and he has been waiting for an opportunity like this;
96. and do you know what he’s going to do?
97. He’s going to say to you, “Oh, poor you.
98. You are such a wonderful person.
99. You deserve better than what you’re getting at home...”
100. but whenever the devil appears to be sympathetic, he is up to no good,
101. because here’s the next thing that he is doing:
102. he is preparing a Bathsheba, or a type of temptation, to cross your path.
103. We know from the Scripture that Michal, David’s first wife, was cantankerous.
104. She was critical,
105. and the devil used the situation to open David’s mind to temptation;
106. so, instead of resolving his conflict with his wife, David gazed on somebody else’s wife;
107. and you know what happened to David.
108. The son of his adultery died;
109. and, later, David’s own family was torn apart with rape and incest;
110. but, finally, David confessed to the Lord.
111. David repented of his sin and he received forgiveness from the hand of God;
112. but the scars of his sin remained;
113. and they are there to teach us not to make David’s mistake.
114. Whatever sin situation you are in right now,
115. I can tell you on the authority of the Word of God,
116. first of all, own up to your sin.
117. Confess it to God and those who need to hear your confession.
118. Repent of it and receive God’s forgiveness.
119. Secondly, begin again.
120. God is saying, “Remember from where you have fallen and go back to that point.”
121. Repent and confess and turn to the Lord,
122. because He wants to give you strength.
123. He wants to give you power.
124. He wants to cover you with His blood so that you will be an overcomer.
125. Finally, I want to tell you how to build a deep, lasting, fulfilled relationship with your spouse.
126. Have an accountability in your relationship with your spouse.
127. Develop a deep love for your spouse.
128. Develop a deep commitment to meeting your spouse’s need.
129. Now, to those of you who are not married,
130. the Bible calls sexual sin for single people “fornication;”
131. and fornication is just as much a sin as adultery;
132. and what God wants from you, until the day you marry, is to be sexually pure;
133. and you say, “How can I do that?”
134. Well, the way is to keep your ears and your eyes under the guard of the Holy Spirit.
135. Focus on the death of Christ for your sin;
136. and sexual temptations can only be run away from.
137. The Bible is very clear about this.
138. Paul wrote to Timothy, saying, “Flee from sexual temptations.”
139. If you are ready to take the first step of confession and repentance,
140. you may want to cry with David, saying,
141. “Cleanse me with a hyssop that I will be cleansed. Wash me, that I will be whiter than snow...”
142. then, call on the power of the Holy Spirit.
143. Ask God to help you to become obedient.
144. Let this be the day that you turn sexual sin into purity.
145. Until next time, I wish you God’s richest blessing.