1. Hello, listening friends.
2. We are so glad you tuned in.
3. Thank you for following this series of messages on the Ten Commandments.
4. I am sure that you have noticed how all relationships have become more shallow in recent years.
5. People no longer love each other sacrificially.
6. Family members turn on each other.
7. The motto of modern-day relationships has become, “What’s in it for me?”
8. We have more knowledge about the dynamics of relationships than any other time in history;
9. but our relationships are more selfish than any other time in history.
10. The order of the Ten Commandments will help us understand this modern-day problem.
11. The order of the Ten Commandments is God’s way of telling us why and when relationships can become shallow.
12. Each Commandment is like a floor in a building. Each one is built upon the other;
13. but, above all, they are built on a solid and strong foundation.
14. Without a solid foundation, a building cannot stand.
15. Without a strong foundation, a building will collapse at the first sign of trouble.
16. The reason why relationships between people are crumbling today
17. is because we have moved away from the foundation.
18. Without a solid foundation, relationships will collapse;
19. and that is why God began His Ten Commandments with the importance of the foundation.
20. He tells us we must learn to honor Him before we can honor anybody else.
21. If we do not know how to honor God,
22. we are incapable of fully loving anybody else.
23. God is saying that, if the foundation is missing,
24. sooner or later, the building will collapse;
25. and that is why He only comes to the Fifth Commandment after He had given us the first four.
26. Honoring your father and mother would not make sense if it came before, “You shall have no other God before Me.”
27. The Fifth Commandment would not have meant anything if it came before “You shall honor My name above all else.”
28. What does it mean to “honor your parents?”
29. The word “honor” in the original language means “heavy.”
30. What does God mean by “heavy?”
31. He is saying to give weight to your relationship with your parents.
32. He is saying, “Show deep respect for your parents.”
33. He is saying, “View your parents as a treasure and a gift from God.”
34. Now, of course, this Command changes depending on the age of the children.
35. It’s application for young children is different than its application to independent adults.
36. Today, I want to speak to two groups of people.
37. First, I want to talk to young children and young adults.
38. All of those who are financially dependent on your parents are to obey your parents.
39. Both in Colossians and Ephesians, the Apostle Paul gave this message to the children.
40. He said, “Obey your parents, for that’s right.”
41. The only time that you do not obey your parents is if they ask you to commit sin against the living God.
42. Otherwise, you obey them all of the time.
43. Young people, I have four helpful suggestions for you.
44. Number one,
45. be patient with your parents’ weaknesses.
46. If your parents make mistakes, be understanding and quietly set an example.
47. Number two,
48. encourage your parents to talk to you about their problems.
49. Keep in mind the stress that comes with working hard to provide for their family.
50. Number three,
51. if your parents do something that you think is wrong,
52. tell them that you dislike their behavior, but do not turn your anger toward them.
53. Number four,
54. above all, pray for your parents.
55. They may seem confident on the outside, but they feel weak on the inside.
56. They need God to get them through these difficult years.
57. Kids, try these helpful suggestions and see if they work; and then write to me and let me know.
58. Why am I telling you these things?
59. Because children who are trained at a very early age in the joy of obeying their parents,
60. they will have no difficulty obeying the Lord.
61. Children who at a very early age have learned to submit to their parents’ authority,
62. they will have no difficulty submitting to God’s authority;
63. and that is why the Bible said to fathers, “Do not exasperate your children, but train them.”
64. Train them not only in words, but in example.
65. How do parents do this?
66. When a child sees his or her parents living in obedience to their heavenly Father,
67. they will learn to obey their heavenly Father, too.
68. Children are watching their parents to model their example;
69. and children who are trained to obey their parents will grow up to obey their heavenly Father.
70. The Fifth Commandment is very clear.
71. “Children, obey your parents so that you may live long in the land.”
72. Now, I need to give you an explanation here.
73. “Living long” does not necessarily mean old age.
74. There are wonderful, obedient children who die young;
75. so it doesn’t necessarily mean old age.
76. That is why I want to explain to you this expression of “living long.”
77. It is an expression which means that you would experience the fullness of God’s blessing,
78. that you would experience the abundant life,
79. that you will experience prosperous fulfillment in your life,
80. that you will experience a joyful contentment in your life when you honor and obey your parents.
81. Listen to what Proverbs 3:1 and 2 says.
82. “My son, don’t forget my teaching, but keep my commandments in your heart,
83. for they will prolong your life and bring you prosperity.”
84. Now, I want to speak to the adult sons and daughters about their relationship with their parents.
85. When you are no longer dependent on your parents, the relationship changes from obedience to respect.
86. It changes from obedience to esteem.
87. Some of you, for one reason or another, do not feel that you can honor your parents.
88. Some of you may have experienced hurt and lack of love from your parents;
89. and, every time you think about this, you become angry;
90. and, because of this negative past, you feel that you can never honor your parents.
91. You feel that you can never esteem your parents just as the Commandment is saying.
92. Some of you may feel that you cannot forgive your parents for whatever hurtful things they have done.
93. Let me suggest something important for you to do.
94. Sit down and write all the good things and the positive things about your parents;
95. then, write all the negative things that you feel your parents have done.
96. Once you have finished writing,
97. then write across the page the following:
98. “Matthew 6:14 and 15.”
99. What does Matthew 6:14 and 15 say?
100. It says, “If you forgive others, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”
101. There are some who would say, “I have tried to forgive my parents,
102. but I just don’t feel that I have forgiven them…”
103. but let me remind you that feeling is an emotion.
104. There is nothing wrong with emotions,
105. but there is something you need to know about emotions.
106. Your emotions will follow the decision of your will.
107. Your emotions will follow the act of your will.
108. When you practice forgiveness, sooner or later, your feeling will follow.
109. You say, “Well, how do I practice forgiveness?”
110. First, you need to confess your unforgiveness to the Lord.
111. Tell Him honestly that you cannot bring yourself to forgive your parents;
112. then, get another page and start writing all of your sins;
113. and, when you have two lists in your hand,
114. ask yourself the question,
115. “Do I want barriers between me and my heavenly Father?
116. Do I want my sins to stand between me and my heavenly Father?”
117. and the answer, of course, is “no;”
118. but please do not misunderstand me on this one.
119. Matthew 6:14 and 15 is not talking about the forgiveness of salvation.
120. Jesus is talking about the daily forgiveness that comes from the hand of God.
121. I don’t want you to ever forget this.
122. Satan loves to see you in a prison of unforgiveness.
124. Because forgiveness is your heavenly Father’s characteristic.
125. Unforgiveness is Satan’s characteristic.
126. My listening friend, let me tell you something very important.
127. Forgiveness must be deeply rooted in the knowledge that you are a sinner,
128. that you are a Law-breaker,
129. that you are a rebellious person;
130. but God forgave you.
131. True forgiveness of your parents, or anybody else, must be founded upon the fact that God loved you while you were a sinner.
132. God loved you while you did not love Him.
133. God loved you while you were at enmity with God;
134. and that is why all true forgiveness begins and ends with understanding Jesus’ forgiveness of you.
135. Without a deep appreciation of the unconditional love and forgiveness of the Lord Jesus Christ, relationships will not hold;
136. but a relationship that is built on the strong foundation of Jesus’ forgiveness
137. will be true and lasting forgiveness.
138. You cannot forgive without that understanding.
139. Once you have that deeply rooted in your heart,
140. you can forgive and you will keep on forgiving;
141. and that is my plea with you, that you will take this to heart and you will act upon it.
142. It will change your life.
143. It will bless you in ways you can never understand;
144. and then write to us and tell us.
145. Until next time, I wish you God’s richest blessing.